Talking to Kids about Growing Bodies & Puberty


Talking to Kids about Growing Bodies & Puberty

Alison Macklin, Guest Blogger

September 23, 2019

You want to know what? Being a sex educator, I had these fantasies about how I would have conversations about sex and sexuality with my kids. They would go something like this: My son and I would be reading an age-appropriate book about sex and sexuality and we would go through the book while he sat quietly in my lap asking questions and me, explaining, in my educator language, the scripted “perfect” response. He would nod in understanding and we would snuggle in and he would know everything, and I would pat myself on the back and…” then I woke up. I had my children and with all things that comes with having children, what you imagine when having children isn’t quite the reality.

Instead of my dream scenario, I’m having conversations about sex in-between ordering food at the fast-food restaurant drive-thru in-between chauffeuring my kids between after-school activities, while trying to referee a disagreement between which Pokémon would win in a battle, and instead of answering my question about whether they want combo number 1 or number 3, my 8 year old son asks me, “mom, auntie didn’t choose to be gay, right?” Now, this scenario might phase me, if I didn’t remind myself that talking about sex, especially with young kids, is actually pretty easy. 

I know, I know. You are probably thinking I am being ridiculous but stay with me here. Young children are curious and not ashamed of their bodies and they don’t pass judgement. We are teaching them all sorts of rules for how to be in the world, this is a great time to teach them some rules that have to do with sex too (in an age-appropriate way). Use simple language. Use short answers. If there are follow-up questions answer them again using short basic simple language. Once the kiddo has heard enough they are going to let you know. Here’s the thing, it’s usually us, the parents who get embarrassed. Our kids are the ones running around naked without a care in the world. If you don’t make it a thing, it’s not a thing.

So, what does that even mean? 

  • When kids ask about what their body parts are, use anatomical language. Call a vulva a vulva (or at least use the word vagina) and a penis a penis. They aren’t bad words, don’t make them bad words. If a kiddo says, “look! There is a baby in that person’s tummy!” Gently correct them and tell them it is in the person’s uterus, not the tummy. Depending on the age and the kiddo, some will take that answer and you are done. Others will want to see the organs and understand what the uterus is and how the egg grows. All of that is fine! You can say something like, the sperm come from a penis and the egg comes from the ovary. Remember, keep it basic!

  • Remind kiddos that no one can touch their private parts without their permission and this is called consent. Practice consent in your house when it comes to bodily autonomy. Did grandma come over and want a hug and your child wasn’t in the mood? Respect your child’s wishes and don’t make them give a hug if they don’t want to. They are the boss of their body and make sure they know that.

  • If there is a parent in the house who has a uterus and has a menstrual cycle, don’t hide it. It’s OK to explain that you get a period once a month and that it doesn’t mean that you are hurt, but it means that your body doesn’t need the egg anymore. Also, make sure that kids understand the blood comes out of a different hole than the pee. And here’s an idea, if you are in a heterosexual, two-parent household, push gender-roles and have dad purchase period gear for mom. 

  • If you see a same gender couple, explain how people are attracted to different kinds of people and that love is love and that’s OK and that different families look different.

  • If you see a person who is transgender, and you child asks about them, talk about how that person maybe has a penis but didn’t feel like a boy on the inside so they decided they wanted to be a girl and now they feel much better and are much happier. So, we are going to respect her and help her to be happy because we love our friends and want them to be happy.

So, Alison, what happened in the drive-thru? “We’ll take two number 3’s, Charizard will definitely beat Digglet, and yes, Auntie was born gay.” My son’s response? “I KNEW Charizard would win!”

Alison Macklin is the author of Making Sense of “It”: A Guide to Sex for Teens (and Their Parents, Too!) and has been working in sex education for over 15 years and believes that all people deserve to have honest and accurate information about their bodies and sex so that they can make the best decisions for their life. She believes that all people deserve to have healthy, consensual and pleasurable sex when they are ready free from stigmatization and shame. Alison also believes that life is best lived with sarcasm and heavy intakes of coffee.

Currently the Vice President of Education and Innovation at Planned Parenthood of the Rocky Mountains, Alison lives in Denver, Colorado and is the mother of two children, 3 dogs and a cat that believes he is a dog.

2019 Best Of Camp Awards


2019 Best Of Camp Awards

HAPPIFAMLI, Senior Awards Correspondent

September 16, 2019

Thanks to everyone who participated in the voting for the 2019 Best Of Camp Awards.  We appreciate all of your feedback and were overwhelmed by the response.  We are so excited to announce this year’s award winners.




BEST ART CAMP: Creative Side Jewelry Academy

BEST DANCE CAMP: DANZA, Center for the Arts

BEST FILM CAMP: Austin Film Festival Summer Film Camp

BEST LANGUAGE CAMPLive the language

BEST MUSIC CAMP: Band Aid School of Music




BEST SPORTS CAMP: All Star Sports Camp

The Ultimate Checklist for Baby Prepping on a Budget


The Ultimate Checklist for Baby Prepping on a Budget

Emily Graham, Mighty Moms

September 9, 2019

The baby is coming soon, and to say you have a lot on your mind is an understatement. You have checked the boxes off some of the common to-dos. The car seat is secured (studies show potentially up to 84 percent of car seats are installed incorrectly). You’re stocked up on the essentials, like diapers, baby shampoo, and formula. Your meal train is set and out-of-town visitors have made accommodations. You are almost ready, but there are other important considerations. Read on to learn more about what else you can do to complete your baby prep while sticking to a budget.


Try Prenatal Yoga

Not only will yoga help you build the mental strength you need to become a mother, it will also help prepare your body to manage the pain and discomfort of delivery. Taking a class is a great way to connect with other moms and be part of a support network, but you can also do prenatal yoga classes at home by using free YouTube tutorials or other free online videos.

Take a Babymoon

A babymoon is your chance to enjoy your partner, take it slow, and savor this last vacation. Keep it budget-friendly by looking into vacation rentals in the Austin area. Staying in a home with plenty of amenities—like a stocked kitchen and quick access to exciting activities—can make even a staycation feel special. When taking a staycation in Austin, you can choose a vacation rental in an area that allows you to explore new neighborhoods, like trendy Rainey Street or SoCo, or you may prefer to find a home near one of Austin’s many lakes where you can enjoy swimming and boating.

Wait on the Nursery

Nesting is a big part of preparing for your baby, but there are other ways to nest outside the nursery. Most mothers-to-be put a lot of focus on decorating the nursery, but many children never sleep in there for the first three to six months—and the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends waiting even longer. By the time you start sleep training, you will have learned some of your baby’s likes and dislikes, and can decorate the nursery based on his or her personality.

Take a Birthing Class

If you want a better understanding of what labor will be like, how to get your newborn to latch properly, or how to make your own baby food, then take classes. Often your health insurance plan will cover some if not all of the costs of child prep classes. If that’s not the case, check your local libraries and hospitals. Many offer these classes at no cost as a way to improve public health.

Ask Your Mom Friends

You’d be surprised by how many people are still holding on to the clothing, toys, and accessories that belonged to their now adolescent and teen kids. Reach out to your mom’s network to see if anyone has anything they would be willing to sell or give away. Always offer to pay something for the item; chances are your friend won’t charge you much or will straight up give them to you. Hand-me-downs are a really sensible way to save costs on both small-ticket and big-ticket items. From onesies to shoes, bottles to bassinets, and strollers to cribs, you can cut a lot of costs by accepting gently loved items from people you know.

Pre-Register at the Hospital

If you plan to deliver in a hospital, find out if you can submit your admission paperwork ahead of time. This will save you ample amounts of time and stress. Instead of having to fill out these forms in the midst of painful contractions, you’ll already be on file and ready to go straight into triage or delivery. Filling out your admission scores ahead of time doesn’t typically reduce any fees—but it doesn’t add any, either. For those who want to, you can also pay a portion of your projected fees upfront. 

There are a million things on your mind right now, which is why using this checklist can help you feel less overwhelmed and more accomplished. Having a baby is an exciting time, but it can also be stressful. Be patient and compassionate with yourself and stay focused on a healthy delivery.

For more parenting tips, visit www.mightymoms.net

Easy Back to School Breakfast Hacks


Easy Back to School Breakfast Hacks

Laura Standefer, Senior Breakfast Correspondent

September 2, 2019

Hooray! The school year has begun! For many of us, this means that are lives are a little more scheduled, and that we don’t have to worry about planning every moment of every day. However, we still need to help our kids prepare and plan for the school days that lie ahead. This includes making sure they get a good breakfast, which you may have heard, is pretty important. Here are a few breakfast hacks to make your mornings a little easier. 

1. Make Ahead and Stick in the Freezer. Meal prepping isn’t the most exciting activity, but it sure pays off on weekday mornings. There are several recipes that allow you to just heat and eat after you wake up, like these breakfast sandwiches or these ham, egg, and cheese burritos. 

2. Include Protein. Adding protein to your kid’s breakfast can help their attention span and memory. There are easy ways to include protein such as these no-bake breakfast energy bites. Dairy, eggs, lean meats, and nuts are also an excellent way to fuel up before school begins. 

3. Muffin Tins Aren’t Just for Muffins Anymore. There are so many Pinterest pins that can inspire you to use your muffin tins to make some delicious recipes. Breakfast is no exception and making things like these low-carb egg muffins can really change the game. Feel free to make them beforehand and just put them in the freezer. Stick them in the microwave and they’ll be ready in just 30-45 seconds in the morning. 

4. Include Something Your Kids Will Love. My son’s Paw Patrol waffles aren’t going to win any awards for most nutritional breakfast item anytime soon. However, if I include eggs, fruit, or bacon, I can rest assured knowing that he’s full and has received adequate nutrition that morning. Carbs and sugar based breakfast items alone are not the best way to start your day, but they can definitely be included when paired up with fruits and proteins.  

5. When in Doubt, Have A Pouch or Bar. There’s no shame if you end up having to just hand your kid a pouch or a bar. Nowadays, there are several great options such as Larabars and Happy Tot pouches with plenty of fruits and veggies to start their day.  Convenience isn’t always a bad thing, what’s important is that your child is happy, healthy, and fed!