HappiFamli Staff’s Best and Worst Parenting Advice
Laura Standefer, Senior Parenting Correspondent
October 21, 2019
As soon as you share the news that you’re becoming a parent, expect to get advice from literally everyone. I learned this as soon as I started showing with my first and randomly started being interrogated and lectured by a random woman at H-E-B.
Most of the time, people are just excited and trying to make conversation. They want to just talk about themselves and relate to you by sharing their own experiences. However, you’ll come to find that all advice isn’t good advice because every child, family, and situation is different. Recently, I sat down with HappiFamli’s staff to discuss the best and worst parenting advice they’ve received. Here’s what they had to say.
Worst Parenting Advice:
- “Sleep when the baby sleeps.” Have you ever laid down and told yourself, “I need to fall asleep right this second in order to get some rest.” How well does that work? Trying to sleep whenever the baby sleeps is just like that. It’s too stressful and sometimes there’s simply just too much to do.
- Advice regarding sleep training. Some people will tell you to let the baby cry it out and some will tell you to never let the baby cry ever. But at the end of the day, YOU are the one that knows what your baby needs the most.
- Anything from your mother or MIL that begins with “Well back in my day….” It’s hard for our mothers and mother-in-laws to accept that times have changed. We have more information on how to feed, transport, and nurture our babies. They may have experience and they always mean well, but it doesn’t mean that you need to take all of their advice.
“…At the end of the day, YOU are the one that knows what your baby needs the most.“
Best Parenting Advice:
- Pick your battles. If everything is a big deal, then nothing is a big deal when you need it to be
- Taking care of a baby is HARD, so give yourself some grace and forgiveness. Do your best but don’t beat yourself up when things aren’t perfect.
- Laugh. It’s a simple and amazing tool for when you have grumpy kids or want to make a memory even more memorable.
- Trust your instincts. Listen to yourself, not everybody else.
- Start as you mean to go on. Be consistent right from the beginning
- As parents, be on the same page. Try not to contradict each other in front of the kids.
- This too shall pass. It seems like sometimes kids will never get out of a certain phase. But I promise they won’t use a pacifier or only eat chicken nuggets, or never sleep through the night when they’re 16.